Aunty Bella is our agony aunt column on BellaNaija.We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers.
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Hello everyone, I’ve actually never done this before but I really don’t know who to talk to for the kind of advice I’m looking for, or rather I’m too ashamed to even talk about it.
I honestly don’t know how I went from a man who worshipped the ground I walked on to being the other woman.
I recently moved to a new country (5 months) and broke up with my boyfriend because of long distance issues.
Met another guy who I knew from the onset had a girlfriend who lives in Nigeria so I wasn’t in the least bit interested in him. But he pursued me, and in the strangest way he actually grew on me. I couldn’t believe it but he did, and we dated for a couple of weeks before he picked up his girlfriend’s call one day in front of me and I said I was done.
I knew I was done physcially but he actually grew on me so it was hard to let go emotionally. So I would go a couple of weeks without even seeing him and think I’m finally moving on until I see him and then it’s back to square 1.
I’m a Christian and had been waxing in my faith till I met him. I stopped praying as much and attending bible study cause I kept feeling unworthy due to my feelings for him. I had been celibate for about a year before meeting him and within 2 months of meeting him we had sex.
We had an argument a couple of days ago and I said somethings I felt I shouldn’t have afterwards because he felt really bad after I said them. So, here I was feeling bad that he feels hurt about what I had said, only to log into Instagram to see a picture of his girlfriend with a lovey dovey caption when he was supposedly hurt about what I had sent him.
It was at this point I decided that I was ready to let go. I never in my life imagined that i would be the other woman as my ex was the best thing to ever happen to me. I honestly feel so down and like crap. Please I need godly advice as to get over all of this. I want to move on, and most importantly reconnect with God cause I know I’m so far off from him.
God bless you as you help a sister.
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